Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Heaven is Here (says the kids)

Tired kids and a tired dog, but oh so happy.


Rudy is home. He's the sweetest dog imaginable.

Even when the silly Momma of the house, slightly lost on the way home (the foster home was an hour away), tried to turn around in too soft ground, causing us to get stuck and stranded for three hours, Rudy was a trooper. He didn't bark or get irritated at his four-hour stay in his crate in the back of our van.

The children, however, took it harder. The girls thought we would die and Beth wondered what heaven was like. We've never been stranded before, so it was quite a new adventure pickle. Once a tow truck arrived and pulled us out of the gully, then troubleshooted why the van wouldn't start (fuel pump fuse went out, so he replaced it) we finally arrived home at 11:30 PM, dinner and bedtime both many hours late.

It was a rough beginning, but Rudy is home (saved in January from dog-pound death row by a pet rescue operation). The kids feel like heaven has come down and settled right here in our home.

Saturday, March 8, 2014

A Woman's Peace



Are you at peace right now, my friend? As you search your heart and mind, is it in a good place? A holy place?

The last several days, this has not been so for my husband and me. While we both feel a dog would reduce our son's ADHD/OCD stress--and therefore the whole family's stress--at the same time, it seems like we can't squeeze our budget any tighter, and dogs require more than leashes and dog food. Our heads are spinning and yet medicine is clearly not helping our son's neurological issues enough. Something more is needed, and our friend who suffers from OCD herself confirms that, yes, dogs do help.

I need a job, my head screamed. We simply cannot live any longer without me bringing home an income of some sort. I checked again for online writing jobs, but the niches advertised were not faith, homeschooling, education, or parenting/mothering.

I've long wondered how mothers maintain professional blogs/work-from-home jobs and keep up with technology and three or four social media accounts, and still say hello to their children. Social media, I'm sure, like blogging, has its good points, but it has taken many a mother down by Internet and status addiction. I hate social media and the thought of its mandatory presence in the life of writers turns my stomach. I've read from more than one writer that she went kicking and screaming into social media, to reluctantly honor a writing contract with a publisher.

We can't get these years back and children can easily feel emotionally neglected by a mother whose face is always down in a phone or staring at a computer screen, too distracted to listen attentively or truly care what a child is saying. The computer is every bit as addicting as drugs or alcohol.

As I perused the writing jobs and thought about deadlines and the need for a perfect copy, and the time to sell oneself and maintain a social media presence, I collapsed onto the computer desk, absolutely sure working from home is not for me.

It's one thing to love the written word and blow off a little steam by writing myself into an understanding of what God is saying to me--to produce typo-infused blog posts several times a week. But it's quite another to think about your audience and how you can serve it. Or the technology and how you can master it. Or your "brand" and how you can develop and market it. Some women are so talented and organized, they can accomplish more than the majority and still be a loving wife and mother. I am not that woman.

My heart is at home...not the home that is a place, but the home that is God's heart for a woman. My heart is with my children and cheering them, shepherding them, teaching them, praying for them. My heart is with my husband and praying for him and loving him.

The key, my friend, to a heart and mind that is at peace, is to know what God asks of you and do it.

He asks us to pray and drink of His Holy Word, he asks us to be keepers at home, he asks us to be servants. A servant isn't someone who just serves, for in deciding where and how you will serve, you maintain the control. A true servant gives God all the control, even when the wait or the task seems impossible. A true servant lays down his life for the Master...his own desires, his ego, his own comfort.

When I quit working in 2005, it was with the understanding that God never asked me to bring in an income in the first place. Women are supposed to be resourceful and frugal with money, but they aren't asked to support the family. Contributing regular support through a paying job is extra-Biblical for women. Not wrong necessarily, just something extra that God didn't command. As I said, some women can do this extra, and still do what God commanded of them.

It wasn't working for me. Even as a part-time, work-from-home mom, I couldn't keep up with everything and the result was a woman who wasn't doing anything well, least of all the very things God asked her to do.

I had to relearn all these lessons this week, and finally, Saturday morning, my peace returned.

Similarly, my husband isn't asked by God to support us in style, or to support a dog as well as us. He's supposed to support us to the best of his ability, and lead us spiritually as well. We can't heap extra things on ourselves and expect to maintain peace and joy.

Matthew 11:30 (NLT) For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light."

1 John 5:3 In fact, this is love for God: to keep his commands. And his commands are not burdensome,

We may or may not need a dog. Only God knows for sure. The Bible teaches that it's not really my husband who provides, but God. My daily bread is not dependent on my husband's pay rate, but on God's love and mercy. When I seek first His Kingdom and His righteousness, my daily bread is secure.

If a dog is necessary for our peace, God will provide it as one of "these things that will be given to me as well."

Do Not Worry (source here)
25“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?27Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your lifee ?
28“And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? 31So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

He knows what is needed. I am His servant and my thoughts and heart need to be focused on that. On being ready and willing to bend to His will and live this: "Your Kingdom come...Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven."

How are you, friend? Are you at peace?

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Friday, March 7, 2014

Homeschool and Mother's Journal Mar 7


On My Mind This Week:

What isn't on my mind? That's the question. We're in the process of searching for the perfect family dog--our first dog. We've left messages with four different dog foster moms (rescue missions of various types), but no response yet. Dog adoption is not simple if you go through a non-pound rescue operation, such as one who cares for dogs through foster-home placement. Owning a dog is often a ten- to fifteen-year commitment, so we are considering each dog's profile carefully before scheduling a meet and greet.

As much as Beagles are stubborn and steal from your trash can, and grab food out of your hand and sniff their way out of your yard--scent trails being a major ADHD hyperfocus issue for them--they're still the cutest dogs in my opinion, outside of basset hounds. I've fallen in love with the picture and profile of a Beagle mix named Rudy. Only I don't have a veterinarian reference for the application, so that might hurt our chances. They check personal and veterinarian references to make sure you're not the next Curella De Vil.

Rudy
Here's Rudy's snapshot...adorable, right? Can you get mad at such a face, even if he stole your dinner chicken?

A beagle is supposedly attached to your hip and follows you everywhere--to the bathroom while you brush your teeth, to the kitchen while you do dishes, etc. They want a lot of attention and my son Peter does as well (the perfect, starved-for-attention ADHD match-up, though the reason we're getting a dog is to help with Peter's OCD stress).

Another thing on my mind is switching from Blogger to WordPress, primarily because of annoying things on Blogger like the absence of a proper em dash. I use a lot of those little guys and it irks me to have to fashion my own--improperly, with two dashes stuck together. A dash is not an em dash. It just isn't.

But importing this blog onto a WordPress blog is not so easy, so maybe my em dash obsession is futile? I don't see a single article on the WordPress site about importing blogs. Can you even do it? I've put four years and 1194 posts onto this blog, which is a lot of work to just abandon.

In case you haven't heard, see this article on changes coming to the SAT exam in 2016.

And if you have a pet, see this link for Pet First pet insurance. For $15 a month you can get reimbursed for a maximum of $1000 a year, minus a $50 deductible. There's a $500 per-incident maximum. There is another more expensive, more comprehensive plan called The Lifetime 5000, the details of which you can find at the same link above.

Here are the most common claims:

Top Ten Most Frequent Claims

Ear Infection
Dermatitis
Gastritis
Urinary Tract infection
Allergies
Colitis
Eye Infection
Lacerations
Arthritis
Tracheitis

Homeschool Happenings This Week:

Peter, age 12, just finished The Incredible Journey and started Rascal, two books included just for fun in Sonlight's Eastern Hemisphere package from 2010, which is the used set I bought. Paul, age 10,  is still plowing through The Incredible Journey. Both boys are daily reading Food and Nutrition For Every Kid, and continuing in The History of Medicine and Exploring Planet Earth.

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Sing, Spell, Read & Write, Kindergarten/Level 1 Combo Kit   -

The girls are continuing in Sing Spell Read Write, a K-1 combo, two-year beginning reading program, and enjoying library books and Draw Write Now--the drawing book a delightful Christmas present from a friend.

Draw Write Now, Book 1: On The Farm, Kids And Critters, Storybook Characters  -     By: Marie Hablitzel, Kim Stitzer

Mary and I continue to enjoy Saxon Math 1, and Beth gets in on some of it too, along with her occasional interest in her BJU K math book (though Beth is not in K until next fall, which is why I don't push).

We're behind in the Sonlight Science package I bought for the girls this year, but since we school year round it won't be a problem. I don't plan on doing our portfolio review until the first week of September, so besides a week off here and there for Easter and the Fourth of July, we have 6 more months of school. The four or five weeks of vacation I gave the kids late last summer didn't work out behaviorally. Peter's ADHD and OCD affect our whole family, and he functions best on a schedule, even if abbreviated. So it's a truly year-round schedule for us, which is okay since we don't go on vacations.

We finished 2 Kings in our morning devotional time, and started the book of Daniel, which we're all loving.

We are listening to Then There Were Five by Elizabeth Enright on audiobook. It's the fourth book in the Melendy children series. You can view the other titles on Scholastic here. We'll be reading all of them. The interest level says grade 6, but my 7 year old is following it quite well on audio.

Then There Were Five

Ms.Enright, who has a wonderful knowledge of plants, flowers and the natural world, intersperses that knowledge throughout her books, making them teach and inspire children in the sciences. Besides that, her weaving of a tale and talent in developing endearing, multifaceted characters are both outstanding, making Louisa May Alcott her only competition in my mind.

Both women see children as uniquely talented, complicated creatures bursting at the seams with charm--a view I wholeheartedly agree with. Though I have other favorite authors for picture books, these two ladies are my top two for novels. We were first introduced to Elizabeth Enright by Sonlight last year, when we read Gone-Away Lake and Return to Gone-Away Lake (we picked up the sequel on our own). We also read Thimble Summer, for which Ms. Enright earned a Newbery Medal in 1939.

Scholastic Bio: Elizabeth Enright (1909–1968) was born in Oak Park, Illinois, but spent most of her life in or near New York City. Originally envisioning a career solely in illustration, she studied art in Paris, France, and at the Parsons School of Design in New York City. Throughout her life, Elizabeth Enright wrote and illustrated numerous books, winning many awards in the process. Among those awards were the 1939 John Newbery Medal forThimble Summer and a 1958 Newbery Honor for Gone-Away Lake. The first of the Melendy Quartet, The Saturdays, was published in 1941. 

I have some picture books to share with you, some with a social studies theme, and some just for fun.

Dave the Potter: Artist, Poet, Slave By Laban Carrick Hill

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Synopsis: To us
it is just dirt,
the ground we walk on...
But to Dave
it was clay,
the plain and basic stuff
upon which he formed a life
as a slave nearly 200 years ago.


Dave was an extraordinary artist, poet, and potter living in South Carolina in the 1800s. He combined his superb artistry with deeply observant poetry, carved onto his pots, transcending the limitations he faced as a slave. In this inspiring and lyrical portrayal, National Book Award nominee Laban Carrick Hill's elegantly simple text and award-winning artist Bryan Collier's resplendent, earth-toned illustrations tell Dave's story, a story rich in history, hope, and long-lasting beauty.


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Tea With Lady Sapphire, by Carl R. Sams II & Jean Stoick

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Synopsis From the authors of the "In the Woods" series of children's books comes this beautiful celebration of birds and nature. "Tea With Lady Sapphire" tells the story of a grandmother who invites her grandchildren over after a wintertime snow to build a snowman. They fill its red floppy-eared hat with nuts and seeds making their snowman the final backyard feeding station for the birds and critters. The three warm up with a cup of tea and hot chocolate and watch nature come to life as birds of all colors and varieties come to enjoy a winter feast. In "Tea with Lady Sapphire: Sharing the Love of Birds," New York Times best-selling authors Carl R. Sams II & Jean Stoick continue their tradition of teaching children gentle lessons of nature and, hopefully, inspiring the next generation of nature lovers.

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Spring Thaw, by Steven Schnur

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Synopsis: Lyrical prose and lush illustrations depict the coming of springtime on a farm, from the warm wind that arrives during the night, to melting snow, to newborn lambs curled up in hay warmed by the sun.

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There's a Hole in My Bucket, by Ingrid and dieter Schubert

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Synopsis: Publisher's Weekly This winsome if slight adaptation of a German folk song opens as Bear discovers that the flowers in front of his cave are wilting fast. He sets out to water them but his bucket has a hole, and when Hedgehog offers to help him fix it, the results are predictable. Observant readers will notice that a storm is brewing, and, indeed, it is a much-needed rainfall that drenches the flowers and solves the hole-in-the-bucket dilemmaat least temporarily. An appealing, decidedly inquisitive cast of woodland animals and insects peeks out from the Schuberts' (Amazing Animals) softly shaded double-page illustrations, and the bumbling Bear and Hedgehog appear particularly endearing. At the end of the story, the "revived" flowers look much the same as they do at the beginningan inconsistency that may trouble some readers, but one that is eclipsed by the cheery images and tone.

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Warm as Wool, by Scott Russell Sanders

2049322

Synopsis: Betsy Ward's three children are cold. It is 1803, and they have traveled by covered wagon to the dark woods of Ohio. After the family shivers through the icy first winter in a drafty log cabin, Betsy is determined to get wool to make warm clothing for the children. She seizes upon a chance to buy eight bedraggled sheep. But it's harder than she expected to raise sheep on the frontier. Will Betsy be able to keep her sheep alive? Scott Russell Sanders tells the dramatic story of a pioneer mother's struggle to provide for her family.
When Betsy Ward's family moves to Ohio from Connecticut in 1803, she brings along a sockful of coins to buy sheep so that she can gather wool, spin cloth, and make clothes to keep her children warm.

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For You are a Kenyan Child, by Kelly Cunnane

For You Are a Kenyan Child

Synopsis: Imagine you live in a small Kenyan village, where the sun rises over tall trees filled with doves. You wake to the sound of a rooster's crow, instead of an alarm clock and the school bus. Your afternoon snack is a tasty bug plucked from the sky, instead of an apple. And rather than kicking a soccer ball across a field, you kick a homemade ball of rags down a dusty road. But despite this, things aren't that different for a Kenyan child than they would be for an American kid, are they? With so much going on around you, it's just as easy to forget what your mama asked you to do!

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Stranger in the Woods, by Carl R. Sams II & Jean Stoick

Stranger in the Woods: A Photographic Fantasy

Synopsis: Editorial Review from Barnes and Noble: A self-published picture book that has swept the country by storm, this stunning "photographic fantasy" captures the magic of wintertime and the beauty of nature. Expert photographer Carl R. Sams II and his wife, Jean Stoick, have combined a delicate, heartwarming story about a snowman that suddenly appears in the woods with vivid animal photos, resulting in a cozy charmer that will leave readers awestruck.

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How to Babysit a Grandpa, by Jean Reagan

How to Babysit a Grandpa

Synopsis: A New York Times bestselling picture book about a child spending time with his grandpa. Written in a how-to style, the narrator gives important tips for "babysitting" a grandpa, including what to eat for snack (anything dipped in ketchup, ice cream topped with cookies, cookies topped with ice cream) what to do on a walk (find lizards and dandelion puffs, be on the lookout for puddles and sprinklers), and how to play with a grandpa (build a pirate cave, put on a scary play).
Filled with humor, energy, and warmth, this is a great gift for or from a grandparent, and perfect for lap reading when Grandpa comes to visit!

Our Gratitude List we actually already shared in yesterday's Thankful Thursday post.

Kids' Favorite Things This Week:

~ Peter and Paul made up their own baking recipes, writing them in their Quick Write journals. Peter's was an apple cake which turned out to be delicious, and Paul's was for pumpkin cookies that turned into pumpkin cake because of excess moisture, but it, too, was delicious. Once you've baked for a few years, writing your own recipe isn't much of a stretch. I was very proud of the boys.

In the back of my mind I guess I hope my children will be their own bosses and own businesses someday, whether farming, a bakery, or whatever. Being your own boss can be scary and a lot of hard work, but it can be a family affair and a pleasure, too, and affords you opportunities for mission work.

Peter has never wavered from his desire to be a farmer, and he always tells Mary that if her husband agrees, they can live and work on his farm, too. Paul says pigs are stinky and he would come to visit only.

~ The three younger children enjoyed making Welcome Home decorations for Daddy, who visited his 91-year-old father in Florida for four days this week. Paul made several hanging decorations from an origami book, and Mary and Beth made paper chains. They spoke longingly of Daddy many times during the four-day separation, which warmed my heart.

Scripture to Share:

Deuteronomy 4:9 “Only take care, and keep your soul diligently, lest you forget the things that your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. Make them known to your children and your children’s children...

Psalm 139:13-16 For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.

How was your week, my friends?



So You Call Yourself A Homeschooler?

Thursday, March 6, 2014

Kids' Thankful Thursday 3/6

Prompt: God created the earth and everything in it. What part of creation do you want to praise Him for?

Deuteronomy 10:14 To the LORD your God belong the heavens, even the highest heavens, the earth and everything in it.

Genesis 1:1 In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.






Beth, age 5

I praise Him for the:

~ grass
~ pink flowers and red flowers
~ windy weather
~ summer

Mary, age 7

I praise Him for the:

~ toads
~ sunny days
~ soft grass to walk on
~ swimming lakes
~ the smell of flowers

Paul, age 10

I praise Him for the:

~ plants
~ fruit trees
~ marigolds
~ morning glories

Peter, age 12

I praise Him for the:

~ dogs
~ painted bunting birds
~ pine trees
~ summer
~ butterflies
~ insects, especially praying mantises

Prompt: What people and things do you want to praise Him for? These photos are not recent, but they remind me of warmer weather, which we're aching for right about now, like the rest of the country.

Our pediatrician








Beth, age 5

~ Mommy
~ Daddy
~ Paul
~ Miss Nancy, silly-with-me rheumatology nurse practitioner
~ Shelly from speech
~ Bea from physical therapy
~ Nancy from physical therapy front desk
~ my dolls
~ my stuffed animals
~ Pooh Bear
~ PBSKIDS.com computer exercise Curious George

Mary, age 7

~ Mom & Dad
~ brothers and sister
~ money for AWANA program
~ paper to make stuff
~ warm coats
~ house to keep me warm (This is the coldest winter we've experienced.)
~ crayons to color with
~ school so I can learn what I need to know for growing up

Paul, age 10

~ family
~ friends
~ relatives
~ doctors
~ AWANA leaders and friends
~ computer
~ washer and dryer
~ table and chairs
~ the mind
~ schooling

Peter, age 12

~ Mom & Dad
~ AWANA leaders
~ Paul
~ Beth and Mary
~ my bed ("I always write bed first, Mommy. I am really thankful for my bed.")
~ my neighborhood friends
~ going fishing
~ table and chairs
~ doors and locks
~ soap
~ bathtub
~ pets
~ pencils and art supplies and clay
~ clothes and radio

Mommy, age (too old)

~ wild flowers and morning glories climbing on our fences and trellises
~ sunshine shining dappled light through the maple tree and into the dining room
~ new snow catching the sunlight
~ cardinals landing on snow-heavy tree branches
~ lake and mountain scenes with wild flowers in the forefront
~ blue sky reflections on lakes, surrounded by summer green in all its glory 
~ the Lord, the God of all mankind, who says, "Is anything too hard for me?"
~ my husband, who visited his father in Florida for four long days, suffering a very cranky old man of 91 who pours out no love, but on whom my husband showered love and patience, because God asked him to. We are not sure of father-in-law's salvation status because he relies too much on the law of the Ten Commandments, versus New Testament grace. Is he trusting himself for his salvation, we have to wonder? It was the hardest four days of my husband's life and I am so proud of him for seeing it through, regardless of the outcome (which only the Lord knows).

What are you thankful for, my friends?

Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Help! We're Getting a Dog

The thought of a dog has never thrilled me, but I love my son and I've come to the conclusion that it would help with his OCD stress. We have resisted this conclusion for a couple years because my hands are already so full, but Peter needs courage to stop listening and obeying the OCD, and I believe (and research supports) that a canine best friend would help him.

I can't afford a real therapy dog, only a pound dog; I must trust God to do the rest.

I would love to hear your own experiences in choosing a pound dog, and potty training it. Will he scratch the door when he's got to go? Or just unload on my off white carpet? How does it usually go when you first bring a dog home?

Do I need more than a leash and dog food, initially? Is it a given that it will tear the furniture up with his teeth?

I understand from the pound (which we have yet to visit...maybe today) that it would be about $90 to adopt a dog, which includes shots and license. I was also advised to take it to the vet right away because they don't have one on staff, and diseases and conditions could show up within a couple weeks of adoption.

Do any of you have pet insurance? I heard a detail once that a $15-a-month plan will pay much of vet costs? Have you heard of this?

Any information you have would be appreciated. Or a website you've found helpful? Researching for hours isn't in my time budget, and I heard anyway that we shouldn't worry too much about breed, but pay more attention to how the dog reacts to us at the pound. Of course, no pitbulls or anything obviously dangerous.

Thank you, friend.