Some days with special-needs children can be so overwhelming, you feel desperate at the end of the day for the right prayer, the right book, the right approach, the right things to say...anything to make tomorrow better than today. It's very hard to accept that the difficult situation isn't going to go away. There's no cure, but there will be good days (along with the bad days and horrific days).
In adulthood it will persist for your child and look somewhat different, but from a parenting perspective it will still be hard.
How do you endure? How do you keep smiling? How do you not envy those with neuro-typical children, even though you love your child with everything you've got and wouldn't trade him?
At the end of the day the hope is not in a cure, but in extending the daily grace necessary for all involved to feel loved and valued. This disorder begs for grace, prayer, trust, faith.
And what's true in every difficult situation is true in this one: Count your blessings, not your "curses". It works every time to refocus us on God, rather than on our difficulties.
Information does help and I look for it frequently. Here is a series written on ADHD from Focus on the Family.
2. Facts About ADHD
3. More Facts About ADHD
4. How to Help an ADHD child
Included in the series is a letter written by a 7th grade boy to Focus on the Family, shared below. It made me so thankful we homeschool. Following this letter, I share an excerpt about tips for handling your ADHD child, and an encouraging link about your child's hyperfocusing.
My son Peter hyperfocuses on various topics, such as gardening, composting, farming, fishing, and owning a dog. He will research obsessively, and follow me around and talk about the topic ad nauseum, and ask for money to buy this or that related thing. It can be very challenging on the nerves, as can all aspects of ADHD. He often vacillates between two obsessions at once, depending on weather conditions and what's available for research.
The snow is finally melting, so he's obsessing about gardening and composting. All of these are positive things, except the lack of response to social cues when he's obsessively sharing. Here is an article on the positive side of hyperfocusing.: Have Passion, Will Focus: Encourage Your ADHD Kid’s Obsessions
Here is a book by Edward Hollowell about seeing ADHD as a gift, not a problem.
Superparenting for ADD: An Innovative Approach to Raising Your Distracted Child