Thursday, March 15, 2012

My Blessing List for Thursday

~ When the girls earn pennies or nickels for helping with chores, they count them, play with them, and then leave them on the floor or on the counters, despite my ideas for better places. The solution? Piggy banks, which I found at Walmart for a dollar each. They were intended for the Easter bucket presents this weekend, but pennies all over the house compelled me to fish them out early. (We do the cultural/kiddy part of Easter early, so that the spiritual part is paramount as the real Easter approaches.)

The piggy's snout doesn't come off easily so the design is perfect for actually keeping the money in the bank. I bought four and my ecstatic children suddenly had to make money. They fixated on it for a few hours, folding towels, sweeping floors and shuffling laundry. That spiraled into digging for pennies in drawers and under cushions. As they tore the house apart I had to think fast.

Pennies for reading? Hmm. I'd love to read ten to twenty books to the girls each day, but spills happen and the dryer bell rings and little people keep getting thirsty. So I told the boys I really needed help with daily storytimes. Mary loves to memorize books and then read them back to us, a feat requiring multiple readings of the same books. We first realized she was memorizing books when she chanted a library favorite to us, nearly word for word from the text! Amazed doesn't begin to cover our reaction. This is the book: Ladybug Girl And Bumblebee Boy. Short and simple it isn't. I long suspected Mary is an auditory learner, but now I'm sure. Paul, my only visual learner (Beth also memorizes books well), never went through this memorizing stage as a youngster.

Ladybug Girl and Bumblebee Boy

Anyhow, my children sit and giggle at books together often now, with the girls drinking in every word. Mary started putting all the books she's memorized in a special box. When she "reads" one to someone, she gets a nickel for her own piggy bank. Needless to say, I'll have to get to the bank today for a couple rolls of nickels. IOU's on slips of paper aren't cutting it.




~ I usually start my day running; there's medicine to administer, laundry to start, breakfast to prepare, little people to dress. When my head aches, however, and the Tension Headache medicine needs thirty minutes to work, I start my day cuddling on the couch with the three younger ones, drinking in their sweet smells and feeling that my life is absolutely perfect. This morning Miss Beth narrated Cowboy Dora to me, telling me she'd really like some cowboy cookies and could I make some, please? Mommy said maybe we can try to find a cowboy cookie cutter at a party store. Then for the next fifteen minutes I had to draw cowboy hats for my two girls, who wondered how we could turn the picture into a cookie cutter? I suspect that later I'll be forming cowboy hats from rolled cookie dough with a butter knife? Pictures to follow, I think? Hopefully I'll convince them to use our spring flower cookie cutters instead. Anyway, somewhere between the hugs and giggles and drawings, my headache disappeared. I knew there was a reason for headaches. They keep busy moms in touch with what's really important...slowing down to delight in little ones.

~ Peter's learned about an amazing thing that libraries allow...putting books on hold via the computer. His computer time is limited to 25 minutes a day, not counting school projects. Suddenly he's spending a great deal of time searching for farm and gardening titles, sending Momma to the library window at least two times a week to pick up his holds--which he obsesses about until I pick them up. By the time he's 18 he'll be able to run a farm by himself. We already started praying for farm-land money, despite farming being a declining practice due to conglomerates. I choose not to dwell on that; God is bigger than monopolies and He put this love of farming into my son's heart.

~ Spring and fall mud used to render me close to tears. But now that we're six years into this climate, my eye rolling dramatically decreased. I've come to accept that every romp outside this time of year involves a load of laundry and vigilant protection of carpets, including undressing my children outside as much as possible, and then carrying them to the shower. It also involves mud pies on the driveway, which for some reason make me smile rather than frown.

~ Little girls begging me to wash and cut the strawberries.

~ Husband home sick today. He let his cold get so bad, he's now wheezing with every step. I think that's a blessing to have him home? I'll let you know more later? Men have these funny ideas about how one gets rid of a bad cold. Like over dressing and "sweating" it out? Do you hear these things from your husband, or was my husband just a bachelor for far too long? He also has pink-eye, which I thought we'd seen the last of. It really appears to be bacterial, rather than viral. Unfortunately, I think the children can get reinfected with this if we're not careful? I don't think the body creates antibodies to bacteria as much as to viruses, which we can't get twice.

~ Miss Beth pulling my sleeve in earnest, pointing to her grocery list with the two letter o's on it. "Pees buy tea and milk, okay Mommy?" (We don't drink tea, but I love her list anyway.)

~ Paul asking me this morning: "Mommy, do you think you'll have time to bake cookies today? I always like to have dessert around. I can go days without it, but I really like it when you bake." (I baked two batches on Sunday, but they're long gone.)


~ Peter started reading How Do Dinosaurs Learn to Read? to Miss Beth. I heard him say the title first: "How Do Dinosaurs Learn to Read?", followed my Miss Beth's unexpected answer: "I don't know." Oh, the giggles from Peter at this. He marveled at how cute Beth is, telling me, "Isn't she going to make someone a wonderful wife someday, Mommy? She's so sweet I wish I could marry her." That girl is not only cute, but spunky and funny as well. Exactly the kind of wife Peter needs someday.

Peter really delights in children. When he says he'll allow his wife to have as many children as God allows, I believe it. He knows--but this is secondary to his love for them--that he'll need help running that farm, as Ann's pig farm shows him (he loves her photos). Concerning children, he really understands the blessing in the midst of the chaos. So often in our culture it's the chaos that reigns in people's minds, and they want no part of it.

Hurrah for a messy life! Bless our messes, Lord!

How Do Dinosaurs Learn to Read?


Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Raising Holy Kids

"Suspence" Charles Burton Barber
Miss Mary let me know today, again, that Pocohontas is her favorite and why does it have to go back to Goodwill?

I gave her the same answer I've reiterated for the last three days.

"God doesn't want us doing those close, long kisses before we get married. The couple in the movie didn't even get married. They had no business sharing those kisses together. God created long kisses as a special gift for married people. That means God wouldn't like this movie. It's hard sometimes, Mary, but we must please God, not ourselves. We have to make hard choices."

Tonight as everyone slept, I read this in 1 Peter 1:13-15 (emphasis mine):

Therefore, prepare your minds for action, be self-controlled; set your hope fully on the grace to be given you when Jesus Christ is revealed. As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: "Be holy, because I am holy."

"Holy" is from the Greek word that means "separated," and in this case it means separated from sin and therefore consecrated to God, or set apart for a sacred purpose. 

Just as children struggle with peer pressure, adults do too. The church mirrors the world more than ever before. Many Christian parents have one foot in church and another in the world. If they like a movie that's Rated R, they go see it. If they like a worldly show, they turn it on in their homes. Everybody is doing it, so it must be okay. 


Holiness? It's lonely. You won't find many people committed to it. You'll hear common sentiments like, "You can't shelter your kids too much. You have to trust them to make the right decisions."


Parenting doesn't come with guarantees. Ever.


But these 5 things will give our children a fighting chance:

1. Mom and Dad need to love holiness. We need to make holy decisions about what magazines, computer software, games, shows, clothing, movies, language, and attitudes we allow in our home and hearts. We need to make holy decisions about whom we call friends. Do the friends have a holy standard for their own lives? We must love everyone, but choose our friends wisely.

2. Most of the time that children are away from their family, whether it be in school, in sports programs, or at friends' houses, they're going to encounter either unholy words, unholy attitudes, or unholy ideas.
When they walk back into our home, we need to wash them clean of the world. We have to ask questions--be willing to gently probe for anything that seemed uncomfortable or confusing to them, or that seemed contrary to Mom and Dad's teaching, or to the Bible's teaching. If we fail to do this washing they'll slowly build up a world view that is contrary to holiness. We might not realize it's happening until it's too late. Jesus spent all day and night with his disciples. That's what it took to instill His ways. If we can't or don't spend 24/7 with our children, we have to be steadfast--very intentional--about instilling holiness.

Deuteronomy 6:4-9 (about discipleship of children--see my underlined sentences especially)
Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.  

3. Our children need to hide God's Word in their hearts. How much Scripture are they familiar with, off the top of their heads? The key here is to review Scripture over and over. Even if they can't get the words exactly right, do they know most of the key verses--enough to understand and discuss the concepts taught? I urge you to look into Scripture memory programs. My own children do AWANA, which is heavy in review, but there are many resources out there for purchase.

4. Our children need to understand that holiness is lonely. They won't be the most popular kid around. They may be persecuted because of their views and choices. A strong, cohesive family unit helps with that loneliness. Family time needs to be paramount so that kids experience profound love and acceptance. If they don't have family filling up their love and acceptance cups, they'll look elsewhere for that sense of belonging.

If you love holiness and strive after it, you won't be the most popular parent around. People will talk behind your back. They'll question your choices. They'll say you need to get a life outside of your kids. They'll call you a helicopter parent. They'll say you're snobby and judgmental. Expect it. Cling to your relationship with God, with your husband, and with your Christian family.

5. We need to be praying parents. Pray God's word for your children, your future grandchildren, your future sons- and daughters-in-law, your children's friends and cousins:


Scripture list found here.


Acts 19:20.........I thank you Father that Your Word prevails over our children. 
Isa 54:13...........That they are taught of the Lord and continue to be 
Prov 13:1.......... the fruit of godly instruction and correction. 
Isa 54:13...........Great is their peace and undisturbed composure. 
Prov 2:6............ Father, give us counsel and wisdom in bringing up our children.
1Pet 1:14.......... I say they are obedient, not conforming to the things of the flesh,
1Pet 1:15.......... but holy, in all conduct. 
1Pet 2:2........... desiring the pure milk of the Word that they may grow thereby.
Jas 1:19............That they are swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to wrath.
Heb 13:5.......... Their conduct is without covetousness,
Heb 13:5.......... and they are content with what they have.
Heb 13:16......... They do not forget to do what is right and to share. 
2Pet 3:18.......... I pray that they grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord,
1Thes 4:1......... and abound more and more in how they should walk and please You.
1Pet 5:5........... That they submit to their elders, and to one another,
1Pet 5:5........... being clothed with humility.
1Pet 5:7........... That they cast their cares upon You, Father, for You care for them.
Jas 1:22............I thank You that they are doers of the Word, and not hearers only,
Ph'm 1:6...........effectively sharing their faith. 
2Tim 1:7 ..........not having a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind.
2Tim 1:9...........Father, You have saved them and called them with a holy calling, 
2Tim 1:9 ..........not according to works, but according to Your own purpose.
2Tim 4:18.........Deliver them from every evil work and preserve them.
John 10:5 ........They will by no means follow strangers, not knowing their voices. 
2Tim2:22 .........They abide with others who call on the Lord out of a pure heart,
Jas 3:10 ..........and cursing comes not out of their mouth.
1Jn 5:18 ..........Because Jesus keeps them safe, the wicked one does not touch them. 
Ps 91:11..........Give Your angels special charge to accompany, defend, preserve
Ps 4:8.............and provide safety for them, day and night.
1Jn 2:5 ...........Because they keep Your Word, Your love is being perfected in them.
1Jn 2:15 .........They do not love the world or the things in the world, 
3Jn 1:11..........and they do not imitate what is evil, but what is good. 
1Jn 1:7 ...........They walk in the light as You are in the Light,
Jas 4:8 ...........cleansing their hands and purifying their hearts, 
2Tim 2:22 .......They follow after righteousness, faith, love, and peace.
Heb 13:18........They have a good conscience and desire to live honorably,
Prov 3:4 ..........having favor and high esteem with God and man. 


Finally, do not be afraid. Be set apart and fight the good fight.

1 Timothy 6:12
Fight the good fight of the faith. Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called when you made your good confession in the presence of many witnesses. 


Philippians 3:12
Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me 



1 Timothy 1:19
holding on to faith and a good conscience. Some have rejected these and so have shipwrecked their faith. 



2 Timothy 4:7
I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. 



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Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Blessing List for Tuesday

~ After a horrendous morning yesterday, my Peter calmed considerably. Someone out there prayed? Oh, I'm indebted to you. Thank you. One Christian upholding another is a beautiful thing, which is why we can't keep our sorrows buried.

~ warmth of spring

~ tulips coming up

~ robins back in our yard, considering nesting places

~ children outside, laughing and playing without jackets, getting back in shape after too little winter exercise

~ family walks are back

~ I have a Disney prejudice because so many of their films are worldly. In fact, we never purchased any of their films until recently. When we saw and loved Mary Poppins, I decided to try some old Disney and picked up a few videos at a thrift store. Problem is I also picked up Pocohontas, which is more new Disney--something I wasn't thinking of at the time. It has premature intimacy in it, including a long mouth kiss, and Indian beliefs about the earth which are hard to counter in a young mind. Children tend to watch movies more than once, making it more likely that the content becomes truth to them. I believe pre-marital mouth kisses invite Satan into the relationship, making purity a lot more doubtful. Mary loved the film--calling it her favorite--and is terribly upset that I'm giving it back to Goodwill. The whole on-going issue with her reminds me of her stubbornness and how much I need to pray that she channels it for good, and that it doesn't cause her to drift from Him or His Word. I list this as a blessing only for that reason, and because I understand anew the importance of not compromising on what children are exposed to. Much prayer is needed to keep stubborn hearts close to His.

~ Titus 2 women to emulate

~ the comfort of prayer

~ little ones to hug and delight in

~ changes of season (they always give us something to look forward to)

~ children who forgive one another

~ The power of His Word in our children's lives, doing more in their hearts than we, as flawed parents, can ever do. If we do nothing else right, let's get this right...making our homes rich in His Word.

Monday, March 12, 2012

When You Want It Easy

Peter, he makes us all cry. He stomps and shouts and knocks down a table chair. He pokes brother with a pencil.

And Paul, the poked one? He won't fight back. We can't be everywhere so we try to teach Paul to fight back. Bullies only bully passive people. But Paul doesn't want to fight. The Bible doesn't talk about fighting back. It's a hard sell.

My Peter? I love him, but I hate what he does to the family. As my Paul stresses about my stress and tries to be perfect to offset all the brokenness, and Mary cries softly because of the turmoil, I lift my hands up to God.

Why must we live so broken? We wake up in the morning and we've already failed.

Will Peter accidentally kill someday? How will we make it through? How can I make it right for everyone? How can I live with someone so mean, so stressful, so irritating, and rise above it and keep a smile for the other three?

I turn 46 today. Peter, I hug him goodnight and he asks if I will die soon.

"Of course not. Why do you ask that?"

"But your face looks old."

I must look crestfallen, because he immediately apologizes.

"That's okay, Peter. I know I look old, but it will be okay. People live a long time now. My grandmother lived until age 88 and Daddy's dad is still living alone and caring for himself at age 87."


It will only get worse now, the age thing. They will all notice and eventually say the same thing. I didn't want to be an old momma. I didn't choose to grow up in a pagan home. I didn't choose to be ignorant of the Truth until age 31, when He opened my eyes and gave me Life. I didn't choose to get married so late.

At the park on Sunday, I follow curious Beth around. She collects rocks and we marvel outloud at the smooth ones, the sharp ones, the rough ones. She loves to collect and observe like a scientist, though she can't say scientist correctly yet. She just knows she loves it, that s word that won't rattle off the tongue.

In my purse there's a script for a speech evaluation, which I only obtained because the speech pathologist shares an office with Beth's physical therapist. We can do them back to back, thankfully.

She digs holes and gets dirty, she follows geese. She delights in the outdoors, even though walking is painful. Climbing is painful. People stare because she is so thin. I watch the pain in her eyes as she goes from standing to kneeling. She hates kneeling and avoids it whenever she can, but it's part of her physical therapy. I encourage it whenever I can.

I see another little girl, about three. She's master of her body and she's a healthy weight and I feel a stab in my heart. Why not for Beth, God?

There is grace, I can't deny it. Grace will see us through. It always does, but mornings like today, when Peter wakes up on the war path and I wake up to age 46, days at the park like yesterday when I see the contrast, I just don't want this reality. I want an easier reality. A sunnier reality.

I have begun a dear friendship with someone who suffered paralysis at age 22, while three months pregnant. She didn't want her wheelchair then, and she doesn't want it now, at age 66.

And yet she is beautiful beyond words. Full of grace, compassion...a gentle and quiet spirit. She is a work of His grace. Visit her beautiful blog here, and know her beauty and grace.

I want to be like her, and I know this is the way. To live the hard life and embrace it, not shake fists at it. To give thanks for it even.

When I want to lock Peter out of the house, I think of her sweet face, her sweet heart with its quiet, gentle beauty. And I send him to his room instead, setting a bell for thirty minutes. Can I love him again in thirty minutes? Time out is really so the parent can get the love back.

Peter didn't ask for multiple disorders and it's my job to love him in all his imperfection. To be Jesus to him even in the moments of deep brokenness.

As I wrote last...the outcomes? They're up to Him. I need only embrace the hard and stay the course He's given me in the Bible. Grace will show me the way.


As always when I write, acceptance comes.

Saturday, March 10, 2012

When We Worry




Do you sometimes lie awake at night, worrying? 


Will Peter learn to control his temper and focus on details? Will his fine motor delay ever go away? Will Paul give up his perfectionism? Will he grow in humility and give the glory to God, despite everything being easy for him? Will Mary let go of her stubbornness and remain teachable? Will Beth have any long-term eye problems? Will she handle her arthritis gracefully?


Peter's issues worry me more than anything, but at different times all the children occupy my nighttime thoughts. Peter had a rough week and after two days of insomnia, a lesson already learned came to my mind afresh.


God gives each of us roles to perform. My concerns are my roles only. I am a wife, a mother, and a keeper of the home. Also a daughter, a friend, and a sister. 


God is responsible for the outcomes; we are responsible for fulfilling our roles. It's crucial to really get this into our heads and our hearts. We mustn't waste our time worrying! For when we worry, aren't we saying we don't trust God? That we want it our way, not His? 


Better to focus on what He wants from us, and then rest in peace regarding outcomes. Separate your roles from God's role. Sounds too simplistic, but we need this pounded into our heads time and again.


What roles needn't I concern myself with? Supporting the family and leading it. Those are my husband's responsibilities...given to him by God. I must be grateful and show my husband due respect, but wasting my time wondering if he's adequately fulfilling his role? That's pointless. God will speak to him about it, if necessary. I need only pray for him and always respect him.


Think of you and your husband standing under an umbrella. God is over the umbrella as the ultimate authority, and the umbrella represents your husband's authority over you. As long as you remain under that umbrella with your husband, God protects you, the wife. Of course, if your husband asks you to steal or do something else against God's laws, you must obey God, not your husband. But in most cases, you're safe under that umbrella, and you're in trouble when you stray from it. If you don't like one of your husband's decisions, it's very tempting to stray, but always remember God's protection over you. Obeying your husband is obeying God.


Whenever we worry about something, we need to ask ourselves: What is my role here? Am I doing it well? How can I do it better?


~ First, pray for wisdom, strength, and discernment concerning your role. 


~ Next, be obedient to the Holy Spirit's leading


~ Lastly, sleep well, knowing you are walking in His will. That's what we all crave, isn't it? The assurance that we are walking in His will?


When we worry specifically about our children, it helps to define what God wants from us as mothers. 


He expects 4 things from mothers (and fathers):


No special order here. A lot of Scriptures are listed. You may want to digest them in more than one sitting.


1. discipleship
2. discipline
3. prayer
4. love


1. We must disciple our children: 


Deuteronomy 6:4-9
Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.


Deuteronomy 4:9-10 
Only take care, and keep your soul diligently, lest you forget the things that your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. Make them known to your children and your children’s children–how on the day that you stood before the LORD your God at Horeb, the LORD said to me, ‘Gather the people to me, that I may let them hear my words, so that they may learn to fear me all the days that they live on the earth, and that they may teach their children so.’


Psalms 78:2-8 
I will open my mouth in a parable; I will utter dark sayings from of old, things that we have heard and known, that our fathers have told us. We will not hide them from their children, but tell to the coming generation the glorious deeds of the LORD, and his might, and the wonders that he has done. He established a testimony in Jacob and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers to teach to their children, that the next generation might know them, the children yet unborn, and arise and tell them to their children, so that they should set their hope in God and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments; and that they should not be like their fathers, a stubborn and rebellious generation, a generation whose heart was not steadfast, whose spirit was not faithful to God.


2. We must discipline our children:


Proverbs 13:24
Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him


The rod was used to guide sheep--to keep them with the whole group--so I don't think this points to spanking, solely, though some argue it does. Spanking may work for some children, but not for the strong-willed ones. If it incites anger rather than repentance, it isn't working. The point is that a child's will needs to be subject to his parents' will (and later, to God's will). Different methods may be needed to make this happen, depending on the child's temperament. 


Lately due to illnesses, my discipline slipped a bit and I'm seeing a difference in the kids. Two things we shouldn't compromise on are obedience and respect. Are they talking back, trying to negotiate, or simply not listening? Then it's time to reestablish boundaries--be stricter for a bit, until they fall in line again.


Hebrews 12:11
For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.


Proverbs 22:15
Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.


Proverbs 29:17
Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart.


Proverbs 19:18
Discipline your son, for there is hope; do not set your heart on putting him to death.


Proverbs 29:15
The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.


Proverbs 12:1
Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates reproof is stupid.


Hebrews 12:5, 6
And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? “My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him. For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.”


Ephesians 6:1-4  
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother (this is the first commandment with a promise) that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land. Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.


Proverbs 30:17  
The eye that mocks a father and scorns to obey a mother will be picked out by the ravens of the valley and eaten by the vultures.


Leviticus 19:3 
Every one of you shall revere his mother and his father, and you shall keep my Sabbaths: I am the LORD your God.


Titus 2:3-5 
Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

3. We must pray for our children: Praying God's Word Scriptures found here


James 5:16
Therefore, make it your habit to confess your sins to one another and to pray for one another, so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.


Ephesians 6:18
Praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication. To that end keep alert with all perseverance, making supplication for all the saints,


Colossians 1:9
And so, from the day we heard, we have not ceased to pray for you, asking that you may be filled with the knowledge of his will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding,


Philippians 4:6
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.


Acts 19:20.........I thank you Father that Your Word prevails over our children.
Isa 54:13...........That they are taught of the Lord and continue to be
Prov 13:1.......... the fruit of godly instruction and correction.
Isa 54:13...........Great is their peace and undisturbed composure.
Prov 2:6............ Father, give us counsel and wisdom in bringing up our children.
1Pet 1:14.......... I say they are obedient, not conforming to the things of the flesh,
1Pet 1:15.......... but holy, in all conduct.
1Pet 2:2........... desiring the pure milk of the Word that they may grow thereby.
Jas 1:19............That they are swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to wrath.
Heb 13:5.......... Their conduct is without covetousness,
Heb 13:5.......... and they are content with what they have.
Heb 13:16......... They do not forget to do what is right and to share.
2Pet 3:18.......... I pray that they grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord,
1Thes 4:1......... and abound more and more in how they should walk and please You.
1Pet 5:5........... That they submit to their elders, and to one another,
1Pet 5:5........... being clothed with humility.
1Pet 5:7........... That they cast their cares upon You, Father, for You care for them.
Jas 1:22............I thank You that they are doers of the Word, and not hearers only,
Ph'm 1:6...........effectively sharing their faith.
2Tim 1:7 ..........not having a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind.
2Tim 1:9...........Father, You have saved them and called them with a holy calling,
2Tim 1:9 ..........not according to works, but according to Your own purpose.
2Tim 4:18.........Deliver them from every evil work and preserve them.
John 10:5 ........They will by no means follow strangers, not knowing their voices.
2Tim2:22 .........They abide with others who call on the Lord out of a pure heart,
Jas 3:10 ..........and cursing comes not out of their mouth.
1Jn 5:18 ..........Because Jesus keeps them safe, the wicked one does not touch them.
Ps 91:11..........Give Your angels special charge to accompany, defend, preserve
Ps 4:8.............and provide safety for them, day and night.
1Jn 2:5 ...........Because they keep Your Word, Your love is being perfected in them.
1Jn 2:15 .........They do not love the world or the things in the world,
3Jn 1:11..........and they do not imitate what is evil, but what is good.
1Jn 1:7 ...........They walk in the light as You are in the Light,
Jas 4:8 ...........cleansing their hands and purifying their hearts,
2Tim 2:22 .......They follow after righteousness, faith, love, and peace.
Heb 13:18........They have a good conscience and desire to live honorably,
Prov 3:4 ..........having favor and high esteem with God and man.

4. Most of all, we must love our children:


Psalm 127:3
Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 


Ephesians 4:2 
with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love,


1 Peter 1:22
Having purified your souls by your obedience to the truth for a sincere brotherly love, love one another earnestly from a pure heart,


Psalm 139:13-16 
You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb.
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.

1 John 4:7 
Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.

Matthew: 19:14  
But Jesus said, “Let the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the Kingdom of Heaven belongs to those who are like these children.”


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